Relationship Questionnaire

Directions: Think of the person you are most romantically involved with and respond to the following items. If you are not currently in a romantic relationship, use the person from a past relationship.

Scoring: Determine your overall score by adding the value of each response you chose. In other words, the lowest you can score is 50 and the highest is 250. We will discuss the average score and scoring extremes in class. All scores will be anonymous.

Please respond to the following statements in terms of you and the person who is/was your most significant other. Use 1 as low and 5 as high in terms of the degree to which the statement is true of your relationship and circle the appropriate number on the answer sheet.

  1. From the very first, you both felt an immediate and deep connection for one another.
    2. 1      2      3      4      5

  2. There is frequently a very real feeling that you have known each other before.
    3. 1      2      3      4      5
  3. There is an electrifying feeling between the two of you that words cannot describe.
    4. 1      2      3      4      5
  4. The relationship was immediate and striking.
    5. 1      2      3      4      5
  5. It feels as though you had never truly lived before you met.
    6. 1      2      3      4      5
  6. You feel a deep sense of wholeness that you've have never known before.
    7. 1      2      3      4      5
  7. It brings on feelings you never thought possible or even dreamed could exist.
    8. 1      2      3      4      5
  8. The two of you are absolutely inseparable.
    9. 1      2      3      4      5
  9. Even now, when you are together time and space have no meaning.
    10. 1      2      3      4      5
  10. There are absolutely no barriers between the two of you; the relationship is a totally open one.
    11. 1      2      3      4      5
  11. You converse on a wide variety of different topics.
    12. 1      2      3      4      5
  12. Your conversations are extremely interesting virtually all the time no matter the topic.
    13. 1      2      3      4      5
  13. Your conversations seem to go on forever.
    14. 1      2      3      4      5
  14. You spend a great deal of time talking about the amazing nature of your relationship.
    15. 1      2      3      4      5
  15. The two of you have a strong urge to serve humanity in some deep and meaningful way.
    16. 1      2      3      4      5
  16. You give to the other and never think of receiving in return.
    17. 1      2      3      4      5
  17. There is a special sacredness to your relationship that transcends anything you've ever experienced before.
    18. 1      2      3      4      5
  18. You have an incredible ability to understand, rather than judge each other.
    19. 1      2      3      4      5
  19. Neither one of you are dependent on the other for your sense of self.
    20. 1      2      3      4      5
  20. There is a deep amazement about the seeming limitlessness to your feelings.
    21. 1      2      3      4      5
  21. You have a strong sense of eternity.
    22. 1      2      3      4      5
  22. Your feelings for each other are highly spiritual no matter what the situation.
    23. 1      2      3      4      5
  23. There are no restrictions within the relationship, all is freedom without the need for ownership or control.
    24. 1      2      3      4      5
  24. The two of you feel without doubt that you have been brought together for a reason.
    25. 1      2      3      4      5
  25. You do not compete with one another.
    26. 1      2      3      4      5
  26. You are continually experiencing synchronicities or coincidences that are remarkable and meaningful.
    27. 1      2      3      4      5
  27. Trust, patience, and acceptance of each other's weaknesses or problems happen automatically.
    28. 1      2      3      4      5
  28. There is a great sense of purpose and meaning to the relationship.
    29. 1      2      3      4      5
  29. Your sexuality with one another is a sacred act that celebrates the all-consuming love you have for one another.
    30. 1      2      3      4      5
  30. Your sexuality is more scintillating than with any other person you have ever known.
    31. 1      2      3      4      5
  31. Your sexuality is as spiritual as it is sensual.
    32. 1      2      3      4      5
  32. When you look into the other's eyes you often see yourself.
    33. 1      2      3      4      5
  33. Your partner feels exactly the same way about the relationship as you do.
    34. 1      2      3      4      5
  34. The external world seems to recede visibly when you are together.
    35. 1      2      3      4      5
  35. Communication is the easiest is has been with anyone in your life.
    36. 1      2      3      4      5
  36. The other person brings out the very best in you, some of which are things you never knew you had inside you before.
    37. 1      2      3      4      5
  37. Affection flows naturally and even unconsciously at times.
    38. 1      2      3      4      5
  38. When you are together, you feel an extremely powerful sense of well being.
    39. 1      2      3      4      5
  39. You feel totally yourself when you are together.
    40. 1      2      3      4      5
  40. There is virtually no effort required to sustain the relationship; it just flows naturally.
    41. 1      2      3      4      5
  41. You notice new color and vibrancy to things in nature such as in trees, flowers, and the stars.
    42. 1      2      3      4      5
  42. You find yourself looking into each others eyes frequently as if compelled to do so.
    43. 1      2      3      4      5
  43. You feel truly inspired by the other person.
    44. 1      2      3      4      5
  44. You are significantly more generative or creative than before you met.
    45. 1      2      3      4      5
  45. You find yourself thinking of the other person no matter where you are or what you are doing?
    46. 1      2      3      4      5
  46. You think of the other person as soon as you awake in the morning and as you go to sleep at night.
    47. 1      2      3      4      5
  47. People around you, especially strangers see you as a couple automatically.
    48. 1      2      3      4      5
  48. You never feel awkward when with the other person no matter the setting.
    49. 1      2      3      4      5
  49. You frequently find yourselves reminded of things in your childhood or the notion of childhood is evoked in your relationship.
    50. 1      2      3      4      5
  50. Your entire view of the world has changed dramatically.
    51. 1      2      3      4      5